Saturday 25 June 2011

Tiger, Tiger by Margaux Fragoso

The back of this memoir states that it is a book about a relationship between a fifty-one year old man and a seven year old girl.  And it's controversial because it is about just that, a relationship.  A socially unacceptable, manipulative, controlling relationship, but a relationship nonetheless and Fragoso writes about it honestly, resisting the temptation to paint herself sympathetically to appeal to readers.

Margaux is seven when she meets Peter at a swimming pool - she sees him playing a game with two boys and decides that she wants to join in.  Over time Margaux and her mentally ill mother come to like and depend upon kind, generous Peter as a way of getting away from Margaux's father, who has good intentions but is at best absent and at worse an alcoholic brother.  Gradually Peter makes himself indespensible to Margaux and starts to groom her.  When their relationship becomes sexual, Margaux sees it as something she must just put up with in order to get the love and affection she craves.  Even when she has a chance to get away from Peter, she can't bring herself to give up the only person in the world that she thinks truly cares for  her, despite all of the things she hates doing.  She shuts away that part of herself into a new persona and becomes slowly desensitised.

Although a memoir like this, in which conversations are recreated and events described in great detail, can only capture the essence of what happened, Tiger, Tiger felt like it had a lot of truth.  I've read some other reviews of it and lots of people are reacting against Margaux for becoming sexually manipulative and not getting away when she had the chance.  But for me, this only shows Peter's power as he has manipulated Marguax to the extent where she becomes the instigator and sexual behaviour is completely normalised, something to put up with to get treats.  I think it was brave for Fragoso to write it like that and to show ambiguity in all of the people she includes, rather than making it just black and white, good and evil.  There is a scene that people object to in particular, where Marguax tries to become sexually manipulative with someone else, but that is how children who are abused often react, and that's usually how the abuse comes to light.

The worst part for me was how lots of the adults knew what was going on, but decided not to know and to look the other way.  All they do is spread gossip rather than help. I think that does happen in society - no one wants to think that a child could be getting abused, so people find reasons to think something else.  In the afterword, Fragoso writes that she hopes the book will help people to become more aware that paedophiles don't look like monsters and don't act stereotypically, and I hope so too.

Verdict: A worthwhile read.
Source: Bookshelf
Score: 4 out of 5


  1. A really interesting, measured review.

    Thanks for your lovely comments on my blog. Don't feel too left out - we've only just bought a freeview box specially, as there was going to be a live chat straight after the programme!! 4oD will be fine.

  2. @Deborah Lawrenson
    It's such a controversial issue that it's important to try to be measured.

    And I'm glad I'm not the only one freeview-less! We had a virgin box in our old flat so didn't need one and virgin don't supply in our new area so we're stuck with channels 1-5!

  3. Thanks for the comment...and the follow!
    I love historical fiction, and before I started my book blog H.F. is pretty much the only genre I ever read! I have expanded my reading tastes in order to try to reach more blog followers...I think followers are turned off by my title, 'historical fiction obsession' but whatever...I do adore HF! :)

  4. I was actually shocked when I realized this book was a memoir and not a novel. I don't really know what to say about books like this, but I like how you pointed out how abused children commonly react. It's not something most people would consider.

  5. Kimberly - my tastes have expanded too since blogging, and my wishlist is now immense!

    Darlyn - I was shocked too, especially as it's written in the style of fiction. As a teacher I've been on lots of courses about child abuse and know that children do not always react in the way we would expect them to.

  6. I think I am going to have to read this book. I've read several books looking at the criminal end with FBI profiles, but to hear it told from a victim's perspective would be interesting.