tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6637440206562155541.post3564059574142182254..comments2024-03-02T20:13:07.434+00:00Comments on Tiny Library: Why Have Kids? by Jessica ValentiSam (Tiny Library)http://www.blogger.com/profile/16375434438465319913noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6637440206562155541.post-34970156612192950872014-08-03T21:30:42.456+01:002014-08-03T21:30:42.456+01:00This sounds like a perfect reading for any woman w...This sounds like a perfect reading for any woman who plans on having kids or needs to revisit what being a mother is. Thanks for the feminist perspective and I hope you and Tom get to work things out.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6637440206562155541.post-12971182240330359542014-08-01T15:22:50.388+01:002014-08-01T15:22:50.388+01:00This sounds like a really interesting read. I don&...This sounds like a really interesting read. I don't have kids yet but would like them someday but I always wonder how it's going to change my life and whether I'm going to be able to handle all of those changes. I have to admit that the title initially caught me off-guard as well!Meg @ A Bookish Affairhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15634397276714805455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6637440206562155541.post-4786734240224255592014-07-31T20:40:35.784+01:002014-07-31T20:40:35.784+01:00In my experience, it felt like everything changed ...In my experience, it felt like everything changed once Giles was born. Things are slowly getting back to normal, but boy was it a shock!<br /><br />I was able to breastfeed for the first few days but my body was too weak to produce enough milk to keep going. It was really painful and he was screaming with hunger all the time, it was horrible. Maybe things would have improved if I had persisted, but moving to formula settled him straight away and made me a lot happier too.Sam (Tiny Library)https://www.blogger.com/profile/16375434438465319913noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6637440206562155541.post-56075521631312654962014-07-28T23:30:37.014+01:002014-07-28T23:30:37.014+01:00Oh, I hugely second this. When we were little kids...Oh, I hugely second this. When we were little kids, my dad took us to do the weekly grocery shopping every Saturday, and people would randomly stop him and tell him how great he was. Needless to say, nobody ever said this to my mother when she was out with us at grocery stores. It is a sucky double standard.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6637440206562155541.post-76403885085480671262014-07-28T19:46:03.767+01:002014-07-28T19:46:03.767+01:00I really liked this one too--I read it early on in...I really liked this one too--I read it early on in my pregnancy, but I completely agree about the title!nomadreaderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04795144320842413060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6637440206562155541.post-18477526098231233662014-07-28T19:32:59.404+01:002014-07-28T19:32:59.404+01:00As someone who doesn't have kids yet, but woul...As someone who doesn't have kids yet, but would like a family someday, I find the feminist issues surrounding motherhood fascinating -- infuriating at times, but definitely fascinating. People are way to quick to judge on this kind of thing and sometimes talking about what works for your own family is interpreted to mean you think that is how everyone else should do things which is unfortunate. Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03215797870829907924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6637440206562155541.post-61937120381738040012014-07-28T10:19:51.102+01:002014-07-28T10:19:51.102+01:00Oh wow, this sounds perfect. I am scared for the w...Oh wow, this sounds perfect. I am scared for the way society's perception of parenting will change the relationship dynamic. We share things equally too, but I already notice that there's a certain assumption in how people approach me and my partner about the baby, and an assumed responsibility on my part that does not seem to count as heavily for him. It puzzles me, really.<br /><br />Same thing re: breastfeeding. I've had even close family say "of course she'll breastfeed, it's the most natural thing in the world", and while I want to try, I can't say I agree with them wholeheartedly, because for some people it isn't. My mom tried breastfeeding twice and it did not work out because of how we reacted to the milk. She's heard from health specialist her whole life on how I might not have this or this health thingy if I had had her milk, which is ridiculous because it just isn't fair to make her feel that way about it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6637440206562155541.post-56415338981400007462014-07-28T09:10:27.377+01:002014-07-28T09:10:27.377+01:00Baby shopping is difficult when you have a boy and...Baby shopping is difficult when you have a boy and don't want him all dressed in blue!Sam (Tiny Library)https://www.blogger.com/profile/16375434438465319913noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6637440206562155541.post-174502669882580872014-07-28T09:09:19.178+01:002014-07-28T09:09:19.178+01:00The author didn't address different cultures, ...The author didn't address different cultures, it was very much geared to white, middle -class American women - it would be interesting to find a book that does.Sam (Tiny Library)https://www.blogger.com/profile/16375434438465319913noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6637440206562155541.post-47949705678201714862014-07-28T09:06:30.199+01:002014-07-28T09:06:30.199+01:00It must be difficult to be married but not want ch...It must be difficult to be married but not want children in that kind of culture. We waited for over two years of marriage before I got pregnant as we wasn't ready for children, and I did get a few pointed comments!Sam (Tiny Library)https://www.blogger.com/profile/16375434438465319913noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6637440206562155541.post-52413085907259039512014-07-28T09:04:27.164+01:002014-07-28T09:04:27.164+01:00I'd love to move to Sweden - I know they have ...I'd love to move to Sweden - I know they have higher taxes but it is so worth it!Sam (Tiny Library)https://www.blogger.com/profile/16375434438465319913noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6637440206562155541.post-16926065766569437252014-07-28T09:02:19.228+01:002014-07-28T09:02:19.228+01:00I feel guilty about it too, like I always have to ...I feel guilty about it too, like I always have to justify that it wasn't just due to choice, it was my body not being able to do it too. I shouldn't feel like that, because there's nothing wrong with choosing formula, but I can't help it. I've not even come across any judgement for it, but I find it hard to let it go.<br /><br />And I'm dreading the injections! Giles is really congested and we have to give him nose drops, which I hate - the injections are going to be so much worse!Sam (Tiny Library)https://www.blogger.com/profile/16375434438465319913noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6637440206562155541.post-16808916865545022312014-07-28T08:57:41.432+01:002014-07-28T08:57:41.432+01:00Oh yes, my husband has had lots of compliments for...Oh yes, my husband has had lots of compliments for sharing the night get-ups with me (we take it in turns). Luckily he isn't the type to get a big head and think he is god's gift to parenting!Sam (Tiny Library)https://www.blogger.com/profile/16375434438465319913noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6637440206562155541.post-24173829760407799402014-07-28T08:55:10.595+01:002014-07-28T08:55:10.595+01:00I can understand that, I'm already a bit nosta...I can understand that, I'm already a bit nostalgic about my son's first few days and he's not even 2 months old yet!Sam (Tiny Library)https://www.blogger.com/profile/16375434438465319913noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6637440206562155541.post-5503127878828187192014-07-27T07:59:09.500+01:002014-07-27T07:59:09.500+01:00Even though this probably isn't a book I would...Even though this probably isn't a book I would read (definitely not thinking about babies for a good while yet!), some of the points you noted really struck with me. I agree with the view that we should all be equal. I'm a big fan of gender equality, especially in children where I think the blue-for-boys and pink-for-girls and the toys they should play with are completely ridiculous stereotypes which make me rather angry. Additionally, I also hate that society feels it has a right to judge people and become involved in their lives. I think it's really insane for people to direct all baby questions at the mother and expect the father to just be sitting around enjoying the good parts. Jemmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14582271824057409116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6637440206562155541.post-36364273257850582632014-07-27T03:47:32.730+01:002014-07-27T03:47:32.730+01:00I definitely empathize with the writer on this boo...I definitely empathize with the writer on this book. So true for so many expectations of what society expects from mothers. It is hard sometimes to meet all that. I also agree with Athira and on what Asian society expects from women.Mysticahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10941269615559681014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6637440206562155541.post-88811629660400854922014-07-27T02:45:14.985+01:002014-07-27T02:45:14.985+01:00Love the sound of this book. The points the author...Love the sound of this book. The points the author raises are very good. I belive it's worse in the Asian countries. Motherhood is pretty much a duty there. If you're a married woman, the entire society is expecting a baby to tumble out any time soon, and if it doesn't happen within two years of marriage, expect a lot of whisperings and taunts in your direction. I'll have to read this book.Athirahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03366654538383603004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6637440206562155541.post-15672965086443957422014-07-26T20:44:49.437+01:002014-07-26T20:44:49.437+01:00Oooh, goody, I'm glad those kindle books are c...Oooh, goody, I'm glad those kindle books are coming in handy :) <br /><br />I think it's incredibly interesting how very traditional things remain when it comes to having babies and who's expected to do most of the childrearing. Basically we should all just move to Sweden where dads get as much paternity leave as mums get maternity leave and where everything is awesome ;)Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17371636785566309578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6637440206562155541.post-46755573705266562122014-07-26T16:27:52.350+01:002014-07-26T16:27:52.350+01:00The default parent thing is so frustrating. I thin...The default parent thing is so frustrating. I think the worst part is when people praise your husband for taking the kids out somewhere, as if this was a heroic feat. When you have your kids out at the store, no one bats an eye. Sigh...<br /><br />I thought this one sounded interesting. After your review, perhaps I will pick it up too!Lindseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00333927782181943347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6637440206562155541.post-28395050281419600942014-07-26T16:10:40.155+01:002014-07-26T16:10:40.155+01:00Sounds like an interesting perspective. With my ol...Sounds like an interesting perspective. With my oldest preparing to go off to college, I'm getting nostalgic about parenting- not that I think I'm done!Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07567954521782974033noreply@blogger.com